12 Days of Kindness. Day Eight: Be kind to yourself
Here are a few ways you can practice kindness towards yourself today:
Speak to yourself as you would to a small child. If you saw a child that had hurt themselves or made a mistake, you wouldn’t criticise them. If you find your inner voice being hard on you, gently tell yourself “It’s ok, we all make mistakes”. To make the message even more effective, give yourself a gentle hug, or put your hand on your heart. This sort of physical tenderness is scientifically proven to alter our nervous system and relax our bodies.
It’s ok not to be perfect – remind yourself of this. We often set so many high expectations for ourselves, whether it be as parents, friends or employees. We’re all trying, and we all have moments of not being our best self. It’s ok to be lazy sometimes, or occasionally lose our tempers. It’s part of being human, don’t judge yourself or define yourself by it. Let it go and move on.
Make time for self-care. Take a long bubble bath or go for a pedicure. If you have a hobby, find time to do it. As parents we often forget the importance of doing things for ourselves, when we live a life of ‘service’ to our children. Remember, when our children see us taking care of ourselves, or doing something that lights us up, they learn to do the same.
Take yourself on a date. Pick something you’ve always wanted to do and do it. Find a friend to accompany you if you’d like to, or do it alone. Always wanted to learn to paint? Find a workshop, or buy some paints and try it at home. Do you love walking on the beach – find someone to watch the children for a few hours and take the time out to get your toes in the sand. This is a day to prioritise yourself.
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